Live Well With Annie Jay
"Empowering Blogs for those seeking real Wellness. "
Inspiring people since 2022.
Sharing My Journey, Inspiring Others
I’m an inspiring content creator with one focus. To encourage you to live your life at full capacity without self-limitations.
If you’re someone who’s been feeling discouraged in life, or perhaps a mental health condition like anxiety, depression or PMDD has been holding you back. Or, you’ve suffered past traumas which have kept you in a cycle of self-doubt and fear.
The overall feeling is, you’re not experiencing true happiness in life. Then you’ve landed in the right place (whether by a recent Google search or by accident), you’re meant to be here.
So allow me to tell you a little about my story in the short video below and perhaps you’ll feel inspired and encouraged to join me by seeking the change you desire, to living a better life.
I was diagnosed with PMDD otherwise known as Pre Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder over 10 years ago. It’s a debilitating version of PMS which greatly affects my mental wellbeing on a rotating monthly basis, for up to two weeks each time.
In addition, I was born with a deformity known as Cleft Lip and Palate and suffered low self-esteem from my childhood due to a horrendous school life.
Various bereavements of close family members took place, and grief gripped me. Self-destruction inevitably followed. I became significantly overweight, turned to unhealthy addictions and jumped into unhealthy relationships. I began questioning my existence and suicidal ideation riddled my mind. I had hit below rock bottom.
No one was coming to save me, but I knew I needed saving. I was mentally exhausted. Desperately in need of a better life, in January 2019, I decided to begin a journey of self-transformation – gradually, and alone. I did the work, discarding my victim mentality in the process.
If any of the above resonates with you, allow me just 13 minutes of your time, to encourage you in the below video. It may be the encouragement you need to hear in this moment.
Today, I don’t recognise myself. I realised that to experience true happiness, all areas of my personal make up needed to positively align. Body, soul, mind and spirit. I could no longer allow PMDD to control my life or define me. I had to take control of my thoughts and actively work for the change I wanted.
The process meant admitting some tough truths when it came to my lifestyle. I reviewed the company I kept, revaluated my health, adjusted the content I consumed, reprioritised my goals and most importantly, took action. I made the decision to put my wellbeing first above all else (after God).
The content I share across my platforms, is in the hope that I can inspire you to begin, and commit to the process of transforming your life for the better. I want you to feel better, do better, live better and be better – because it’s absolutely possible.
You’ll notice once you begin reading, I always speak from personal experience. Every word you’ll read, in every blog post, is my own. So, before you venture off to dive in, there’s a few final items for your perusal (you’ll find below).
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Can You Relate?
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I use to wake up most days feeling unfulfilled, lost and without purpose. I’d question life on many occasions wondering why I was here. The condition I had would only amplify these emotions.
I had interests in certain hobbies but never had the energy, enthusiasm or drive to do anything about them. I’m naturally an ambivert but would spend an unhealthy amount of time by myself, with negative thoughts.
I would try to see the glass as half full but with the way I really felt, it was easier to see it as half empty. I was lacking in confidence and would allow myself to fade into the background, in social settings.
I’d eat foods for comfort but for which I knew were detrimental to my physical health. I knew I needed to exercise, but the thought alone caused mental fatigue.
I’d spend my free time watching junk TV, smoking drugs or playing games – anything to help me escape reality.
I got into relationships out of need, emotionally dependant on others for my happiness. My condition would make it difficult to balance life, work and relationships.
I’d given up on myself. Although I wouldn’t admit it out loud, I knew it in my heart. I was painting on a smile that wasn’t at all real. I was the living dead.
Can Things Get better?
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The simple answer is Yes. I believe sometimes as humans, we underestimate our ability to bounce back and recover from down periods in life.
One thing I’ve learnt on my journey is that in reality, it only comes down to one thing. How badly you want change.
I got to a point where my back was completely against the wall. I became stuck in a cycle of despair with no visible means of escape – or so I thought.
Little did I know, I possessed the ability to pull myself out the pit of darkness that had become my home. The catalyst – Desperation. Desperation for change, desperation for a renewed life, desperation for different.
My crumbling surroundings, formed this catalyst. I thought I was just unlucky enough to have an unfortunate life.
Looking in hindsight, these events in my life, were the reason I hit this deep level of desperation that would set me on the path to becoming the best version of myself.
I reached a point of fight or flight. All I knew is, I was valuable enough to try and not quit. On life, or myself.
I tried repeatedly, until my tries became the new normal. It led to a destination I could never have envisioned at the start.
So yes, you absolutely can get better. If you will it with every fibre of your being and you follow through with small actions, you can change your life, entirely.
What's The Process Like?
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A journey towards real growth, development and transformation, can be lonely I’ll be honest. Unless you have someone close on the same path (which is more unlikely than likely), it’ll be You versus You.
What I learnt is, you have to be everything for yourself. You become your own coach, cheerleader, encourager, the person you talk to when it’s really getting tough.
This journey consists of you, standing in the atrium of your own mind, slow clapping for yourself. Aside God (if you’re a believer), you will be all you have.
Until you’ve flown a plane, you’ll never know how it feels to fly one. I simply mean, it’s a journey others will struggle to understand, unless they’ve been there themselves. That’s why it’s just yours.
There will be many days when you have to convince yourself not to quit. Days when you cry because you’re putting in work, your fatigued, results are slow and your emotions are fighting you. The old you, will fight to stay.
There will also be days however, when you celebrate yourself because of the progress you’re making. You’ll begin to look different, feel more confident and radiate a glow that reflects in your charisma and attracts others.
The process may be daunting but it’s also the most rewarding personal venture you’ll ever experience.
The one thing I’ve loved most, every eventuality in the process has a positive function, even if it may not feel like it at the time.
There’s power in not giving up. Each time you relentlessly continue regardless of how you feel, you define your true self and solidify the potential you carry. Your life can be beautiful. I’m just here to encourage you to see it.
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Peace of mind and a healthy body are inevitable when you begin to think and feel in the right way. Whatever you claim mentally and feel is true, your subconscious will accept and bring forth into your experience.
You have to be willing to allow the person you are today to die so that you can give birth to the person you're meant to become. Do what is hard & your life will become easy.
Any significant measurement of growth will require experience to commit to the substance of the unknown through faith.